Some of the lessons we learned when growing up our lessons, we may spend a lifetime trying to unlearn. Even some of the lessons that we learned that might be true, can be contaminated with negative experiences that cause those truthful statements to be used in a way that corrupts us and blackens are heart. Below are some of the statements that people have learned in their upbringing, which might reflect your own thoughts or your own past.
Adults are not safe for me to express myself - sometimes we are hurt by the adults who are responsible for taking care of us. When this happens, a variety of things can occur. We might learn not to trust other adults. We might learn that we should not strive to be an adult. We might even learn that when we become an adult, we become unsafe people, or that we have to stay away from other adult adults because they are unsafe.
My thoughts are not important enough to be heard by those close to me. - when people in our life who are supposed to care for us and care about us don't hear us, we learned that our thoughts, our words, what we want or desire, or even what we say we need is not really true.
I must internalize and keep things to myself - you might even learn that if you dare to share how you feel, negative consequences occur. Because of this, the rule you may have learned is that you cannot share how you really feel.
Below our other statements that we may have learned in life:
Going deeper into my emotions/thoughts causes other people to feel uncomfortable.
Going deeper into my emotions/thoughts is a BAD thing.
My friends are the only ones that can be relied on in hard times
You can’t choose your family.
I can't rely on my parents.
My home is not a place for me to feel safe and secure.
Being at home is a place that I should feel a sense of discomfort.
I have to seek refuge outside of my home.
As long as I'm taking care of my siblings, I'm doing a good job, I'm doing good.
Taking care of myself is not the priority.
One of the greatest gifts, the guy gives us is the gift to choose. However, this can be hampered when we believe that we don't have much of a choice, when we think that our choices are relegated to options that do not fulfill us or satisfy us. However, there are of the choices that can be made, sometimes though we have to have help in understanding the possibilities that are available to us.